21 May, 2020. A family birthday

admin / May 21, 2020 / Leave a comment / Letters to Byron

My beautiful Byron,

I spoke to your Yaya earlier, in her lockdown quarantine in Johannesburg and she reminded me that today is Christine’s birthday. Christine is your aunt, who you have never met. She turned 54 today. She lives in Marlowe, about one hour away from where you are. She is my younger sister, who was married to John Souglides, who you have met. Christine is also John’s Godmother. (Your brother John.)

John was actually christened in a Greek orthodox ceremony, in the Bayswater Greek orthodox Church, and Christine was his ‘Official’ Godmother. Its amazing that John was christened in a church when considering my views on child abuse. He has turned out well though. I think he understands why I was pressured into that agreement to have him ‘Christened’. His mum’s father was a tremendous Catholic and the pressure to have a church christening was immense. It is one moment I look back on with regret, that I didn’t spare baby John from that indignity. But there you go. Sometimes we make choices for our family that are not in line with our own intuition. John’s mum, Catherine, really wanted to do this ceremony and in the end I did it for her despite my strong objections to the entire process. John survived quite well. He certainly knows a great deal about religion now. Christine though does not know as much about that same subject and that relates to why she does not speak to John or to me. Or, for that matter, to you, although even if she wanted to speak to you and make up for lost time, she wouldn’t be able to for reasons of Adler/Amlot and O’Leary.

I hope that one day you do get to meet her. She is after all one of your closest family members, and lives just down the road from the best Korean Restaurants in Greater London.

Yesterday was a big day on planet Earth. The highest number of deaths from Covid in one day. This viral spread is on the increase. I hope you are being careful about not becoming infected. And not becoming afraid. Don’t be scared – be sensible. Stay informed by rational fact – not dissempowered by irrational fears. Covid virus is spread mostly by aerosol. That is ‘carried in the air’ from an infected person being close by and coughing or even talking or breathing out particles that would enter your body through your mouth or nose as you breath in.

It is important that you do not ‘breath’ near people who might be infected. Including asymptomatic people – who are Covid + but are not displaying symptoms. Wash your hands a lot. And wear a mask if you go out. Although, you should choose to not go into any public place. Compensate for this inactivity by staying fit at home. Remember to do aerobic exercises. Nourish your immune system by eating well and exercising regularly.

Don’t develop any unnecessary phobia’s over being 10 in a Pandemic in one of the worlds largest cities. Do whatever you can to stay safe, but remember, at your age, even if you do test positive, you are unlikely to experience more than a bad flu symptoms. Don’t allow irrational fear to find a place in your thoughts. Covid is most deadly to older people. And fatties. And smokers.

You test negative for those three conditions, so no need to over react to any worries you might be seeing on TV. I would love to talk to you about your experience in processing this pandemic as a 10 year old. But as you know, Adler/Amlot and O’Leary have placed obstacles in my way which I have yet to overcome, so its seems I will still be prevented from talking with you on your 11th birthday, next week.

I think it is important that you know the reason why I cannot talk to you is not because I don’t want to, or think that you don’t want to talk to me. It is because Adler/Amlot and O’Leary have acted badly. Like larcenous child abusers, who have brought British Family law into disrepute and continue to get away with it to this day. Imagine, we have not been allowed to speak to each other since 16 February 2016. Such is their anxiety that you will find out what happened between Adler/Amlot and O’Leary. It is a pitiful desperation to cover up the same decisions they made in family court to enrich themselves, while making you the poorer for it. A type of greed that leaves scars that live on long after they have spent the proceeds of their victory.

But if not now, or soon, eventually you will be able to be with me and we can catch up on all the time we missed because these three individuals succeeded in family court. By then, we will both have achieved the forgiveness for these three to let it pass with nothing more than pity. They will have to live the rest of their lives knowing what they have done. You and me have the rest of our lives to look forward to.

Meanwhile, I am using my lockdown time to build ‘Byron’s Beach’. And one day, when planes fly again, I think we will be able to sit there and enjoy lemons from your Lemon tree, and catch up on all these missing years in the beautiful California sunshine.

Miss you,
Love you,
Daddy